When it comes to a relationship between a narcissist or empath things are always the same. Here we’ll talk about all the stages of such a relationship. Read on and maybe someone will recognize themselves in some of these situations.
1. The Start of the Relationship
In the beginning, the empaths get attracted to the narcissist and love unconditionally and sincerely. Even though the narcissist doesn’t make a strong bond, the empath feels emotionally fulfilled.
The empaths believed their love is returned and feels satisfied just by being with the narcissist.
2. False Notion
The empaths get the impression that they have met the love of their life. It is like that since the narcissist confirms this by creating an illusion that makes the empath believe that their relationship is special and one of a kind.
Then the empath feels a deep bond seemingly impossible to break free.
At some occasions, it seems as the narcissist wants and fights for this bond as much as the empath. But the reality is different; the narcissist just wants someone who invests their love, time and energy and who is under their control.
4. With Time the Empath Feels Week
With time the narcissist will ensure that the empath feels unconfined, weak and bereft of the capabilities to do even simple and easy things. You should bear one thing in mind, and that is that a narcissist never attacks openly.
Instead, they use statements such as “I am doing this for your own good,” and “I really don’t want to hurt you but..”
They will try to control you and control everything from deciding on buying something or paying the bills. With time the empath will doubt their capability, and they believe that they need the narcissist in their life.
5. The Empath Believes This Relationship Is Everything
For the empath, this is everything since they are in love. They love the narcissist, and they would do anything to talk, cheer, and help the narcissist. The narcissist presents themselves as the victim of the circumstances, their relationships, and the past.
Empaths are natural givers, and they want to make up for all the bad times that ever happened to their partner, in this case, the narcissist.
6. The Blindness of the Empath
The empath has a clear and good heart and cannot understand that unresolved and deep wounds of their partner aren’t the same as theirs. Healing these wounds is entirely different from healing their own.
7. The Relationship Revolves Around the Narcissist
The whole relationship is about the narcissist. Slowly their partner realizes this, and at a time they feel afraid to combat or talk about their desires and needs. They want to please, and they don’t want to talk about their needs.
Empaths would rather be loved than be disliked. However, at the end of the day, they aren’t happy.
8. It Is All About Control
The more affection, effort, devotion, care and love the empath invests into their relationship, the more the narcissists strengthens the control in the relationship.
Literally, the empath dances to the tune of their partner. And the fact is that the empath cannot see this and the continue to please their partner. The issue happens when the empath reaches a certain breaking point.
9. Breaking Point
Finally, after some time, the empath begins to talk since they cannot stay quiet anymore.
Their emotional needs are unfulfilled, and this happens from the very beginning of the relationship since the empaths have thought that the emotional needs of their partner are all that matters.
When they reach the breaking point, they put themselves first and surely their partner doesn’t like this.
10. All the Narcissist Wants Is Attention
You should remember one thing the narcissist is nothing more than just an attention seeker. This type of people gets satisfaction when other fuss around them.
They are never satisfied, their needs are never met. They might have new partners, new business, travel the world and still, they won’t be happy. Sadly, the empath doesn’t know this.
11. Control Tactics
Finally when the empath fight for their needs, the narcissist calls them insane. They want to convince the empath that their concerns are unfounded and that the empaths are over-dramatic.
This type of dismissive behavior is the tactics used to get control over the empath.
12. Confusion of the Empath
The empath is confused by the behavior of their partner. Then they begin to blame themselves and start thinking that they don’t deserve love.
The empath cannot figure out that their partner is a manipulator. The narcissists have bent everything just to make a twisted view of the circumstances.
There might be anything around them to find out the truth that they are right and that their partner is wicked.
14. Efforts to Save the Relationship
The empath will try to talk with their partner in all truthfulness. But what their partner will do is just pass the blame and justify their bad behavior.
It’s totally normal to feel hurt, lost and confused. However, despite the heartbreak, the empath needs to do self-evaluation and be calm in order to understand how to become defenseless. This is when the transformation begins.
16. Empaths Are Healers
Empaths know that by nature they are healers since they have the strength to help others, sometimes life brings them in such situations and sometimes as a duty.
17. Bitter Truth
The empath realizes that not everyone deserves their affection, love, and care. Not everyone who is unhappy and distressed is presenting their true self. Some people have a different look at people and relationships in comparison to them.
Not everyone they love can be trusted so rapidly.
18. Good Out of the Bad
In this particular situation, the empath will realize that they are in a bad situation as the narcissist has always said, but they see this differently.
They make efforts to heal themselves and learn something from this. The narcissist will never be able to do that.
19. Painful Awakening
They will awake, learn and move on.
20. The Narcissist Will Also Move On
The narcissist will move on as if nothing ever happened and as if they are the victim. They won’t even remember that someone loved them intensely and deeply, the won’t remember the bond they had with the empath.
They will just move on and find someone else. So, yes the narcissist will move on but in a different way than the empath.
At one time of their life will understand that they cannot connect with other people and most importantly with themselves.
21. New Victim
The narcissist will find another victim and continue the same way.
22. The Empath
The empath will be more careful, wiser and stronger. They will become picky about who they give love, time and affection.
So, if you can relate to this, remember one thing pain makes you stronger. Heartbreak makes you wiser, and tears make you braver. Therefore, thank the past for a brighter and better future.